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I hope so too. I also hope today wasn't too bad. Thinking of you!


I believe it will.


Liz K.

The only thing I knitted during the week between my dad's death and his burial was a seed stitch schmatte in red Cotton Ease. Months later, my daughter inexplicably became very attached to it and slept with it for a long time.

I always remember that week, those months...him...and am glad that this was the swatch my daughter decided to love.


I started to knit as a way to keep myself from unraveling from a deep, breathtaking loss. It does work my friend.


I think it will. I hope you can find some comfort in it.

[I wish I had been knitting/crocheting around the time when my dad died (~3.5 years ago). I think it would have helped me through those long days/months. ]


I think it will if you want it to. People go away but we always keep a piece of them in our hearts.

Michelle Huddleston

I'm knitting like a mad fool, to keep myself sane. I lost my mother a month ago, and had to put my Dad into assisted living at the same time, because he has Alzheimer's.


With all the loving vibes you were sending out, there's no way it could have escaped.


I love wearing an off white seed stitch scarf I made for my dad. He used to wear it with a black overcoat when he walked to synagogue.
He's been gone for almost ten years, but I love to feel that he's still with me.


A few years ago, my mom was dying of breast cancer. I hadn't yet learned to knit but I've often thought how different that time would have been had knitting been part of it.

As you sit beside someone who is preparing to leave this place, things around you can seem very vivid and for me, became part of something that feels deeper than memory.

It is wonderful that were able to create something as beautiful & soft as a cashmere cowl and I suspect that it will replace any memories you have of hospital rooms, nurses & machinery and solely remind you of your friend Melissa.


absolutely. fibers of a beautiful girl.


It always will, and even while you were knitting away, you'll find you cherished her very being forever in those moments you had together. {J}


I've sent you a private email. x


i hope with every stitch.


A painter I knew used to talk about gesture and geometry, about how even the most finished thing still held inside it the record of the motions that had made it. Knitting beside her, with her in your thoughts, the stitches recording every move you made... she must be there.


I hope so too... It's a fitting memorial for a close friend - soft, luxurious, warm and comforting.

brenda in toronto

It will. {{hugs}}


I gave away most of the things that I knit at my father's bed side but I think of what I was knitting when I think back on that time. It is all bound up together. The time, the knitting and the love

Dorothy B

I think it will. I hope it will for your sake.


Nine months ago, my partner suffered a spinal cord injury. My dear friend Ashley picked up all her stray yan and needles and brought them to the hospital for me, thinking that I might need something to occupy my hands and mind. I could not concentrate to knit. Like Penelope, I knit and unknit and knit and unkit. Finally, I put away my project and just waited.

Now, months and months later, the recovery continues, slowly. And I'm finally able to find enough stillness to begin knitting again.


I too believe it will: for you will wear the memory of her and keep her close to you with your beautiful knit. We create out of darkness in order to find our way out, and loss always must give way to life because this is nature's way. In some way, this is what your cashmere scarf is: a way out and a way of holding on. It's all very sad, tragic, and painful, and my thoughts and prayers go to you and her family, but it is who we all are and where we all have come from. It's also where we are all heading, and I myself would love the thought of a friend doing what you did for her, for me.


I crochet a blanket when my youngest daughter had heart surgery at 9 months, I remember too it stopped me watching the monitor, and with being a nurse that is a very hard thing to do. Out of all of her blankets it is still her favorite, and the one she wants whnever she is sick, she is 6 now.


i think so... i think it will always say she was here, and you were with her, like all the other little ways you have knitted her into your life.

i'm sorry for your loss, Julie, for you and yours. take care.


I am so sorry for your loss. I have knit through many crises and heartbreaks. For me, it really helps to create a finished thing, and also to give the objects I make away to the people that help me through whatever it is that has happened. And there is always someone that was there. It is a way of making sure someone you have lost continues to live on and touch lives, independent of your own memory.

Passions & Distractions

It will. And it's a beautiful reminder.

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